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snowbird from The Frozen Tundra -

I have always had a hard time getting close to people. I don't make friends easily and when I do, I don't keep in touch with them. I'm a real private person and I don't like to share my feelings with others. It's like I have this wall up and I don't let anyone in. How can I get past this?

Comment #1 Dr. Info (63.176.159.119) -

Try a pshcologist. I'm sure they can unlock the secret to your trouble.

Comment #2 dmichael (63.176.159.74) -

I'm the same way. Its not that I have a hard time getting close to people, because I do get close, but I just don't take the time out to make new friends. I am satisfied with what I have. My problem is trusting the new people I meet. Its a way of life.

Comment #3 Lovin It (63.176.159.221) -

Sometimes people don't like to get close to people because they were hurt too many times..

Comment #4 Karla (63.176.159.217) -

I have a problem with keeping the same friends. When I find a good friend I hang out with them everyday until I can't stand them. I need to take my time making new friends and try not to get annoyed by them. Another problem I run into sometime is that I will have a boyfriend and I forget to make time for my friends because I love to hang out with my boyfriend. I really need to work on my friendships. Does anyone else ever run into these problems or am I just a horrible friend?

Comment #5 Dan (63.176.159.85) -

I've had the same situation with Karla. That was when I've met my wife. Back I have more time for my friends, but when she can into the picture, almost all of my time was diverted to her alone and less and almost none to other. We end up being together which is a good thing for me. Some of my friends back there are still my friends today. I guess that I could call them true friends that the others.

Comment #6 Karla (63.176.159.177) -

I sometimes hang out with my boyfriend so much that we get sick of each other and start fighting all of the time. I don't know how many relationships I've ruined by doing this. I need to remember not to spend every moment with them because I end up getting to know them the wrong way. I don't know if that makes any sense but what I'm trying to say is that in the beginning of our relationship we try to impress each other then in a couple of months we act like we've been together for years. Pretty soon there is no more suspense in our relationship and we no longer try to impress each other and then comes the fighting.

Comment #7 Samayra (63.176.159.33) -

I too, have the same problem. My problem is that I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and already I am scared that he is bored, and I want to know what I maybe could do to bring back the excitment, and like Karla said the "suspense", and I am not talking about our sex life either, that part is fine, Im just talking about emotionally.

Comment #8 Ferer (63.176.159.164) -

You didn't completely stated your story on why you are such an introvert snowbird. we can't really give an advise to you if we don't even know the reason why are you afraid or have troubles keeping in touch with people. all we can do is assume of why you're like that. Like what they said maybe you have been hurt or turned down by someone special before or abused which made a pshological effect to you. If that is the case then see a psychologist

Comment #9 Monty (122.167.143.181) -

I am on the same league as you guys. But slightly different. I can start talking to anyone and get myself of anyone's friends list in an instant. People always say I can move along with anyone. But I dont have many close friends. Its almost like I push people away when I get too close and they need to be amazing to be able to hold on to me! Just 2 and they are not staying in my city anymore. Heck one not even in the country ! I dont want to go to a psychologist. Can anyone help me ?

Comment #10 Zarlin (63.176.159.143) -

To Karla and Dan:

i feel sorry for your partners. Do they know what your writing in this forum? Talk to your self, do you still want to keep your partners or keep your friends. When you commit yourself to a relationship make sure that your ready to this kind of scenarios. Your partner did not tell you to leave your friends, you both (Karla and Dan) just decided to feel that way and isolate your world to you and your partner only. If you really love your boyfriend Karla then grow up and stop writing this kind of stuffs, and Dan if you love your WIFE then stop making yourself troubled with your so called FRIENDS.

Comment #11 crystal from asia -

Hi Karla,

You are same with my other friends. When they have a boyfriend, they can't remember us. They don't hang out and doesn't contact wit us anymore. It's kinda irritating you know. It's like the friendship were dumped just because of the other new guy to which she don't know that much while we, their friends whom they've known for a long time and with her side through thick and thin. It's so unfair you know. But when the relationship broke off, then that's the time that they will go to us and be with the group to get some advices and comfort which is not good.

Comment #12 Butch (63.176.159.226) -

You just need to be confident with yourself when speaking to new people. If you're timid around people, finding new friends will be that much harder.

Here's a tip. When in a group of people you don't really know and you want to strike up conversation, don't try only talking to a single person. Let the whole group hear what you have to say.

Comment #13 Remi (63.176.159.19) -

Tips on how to get new friends:

1. Smile

2. Greet people or classmates or office mates often.

3. Try to be generous, say treat your target friend a coffee once in a while.

4. Be observant on birth dates.

5. Be approachable

6. Dress nicely, i mean we don't want to come close to scary looking guys right?

7. Be the first to open up a topic when a chance of conversation knocks.

Comment #14 Isaac (63.176.159.213) -

You have a difficulty making friends and socializing because that is who you are. That is why society classifies people as either introverts and extroverts. There is a mixture of the two too: those that we like to refer to as having a 'split personality'.

Be comfortable with who you are. You have no idea how many people wish they could just be tranquil and quiet.

Relationships are usually sugar coated to look like falling in love is the best experience anyone can have. Anything good has to be worked towards people.

Comment #15 moy (63.176.159.142) -

I do not think you are being fair to yourself by not being really friendly. There is a lot of power in good PR and the moment you put that into play, I am sure many benefits will head your way.

I think it is easy to judge how others find you to be based on their facial expressions any time you start a conversation.

It will take personal effort to get out of that cocoon.

Comment #16 sinamar (63.176.159.136) -

I guess you have some trauma in your past life that you are still dealing with up to this time. I know you do know the reason why you are locking yourself away from people. The best medicine for that is to find out the root cause of your problem and face them squarely.

You can never live a normal life like being around with people at times if you don't address the root cause of your being a loner. Years ago I suffered from episodes of severe depression and it came to the point that I had to take anti depressant as my psychiatrist advise. But then it did not solve what's causing my depression, it always pops up from time to time. Then one day I realized that the only cure for it is to face the root cause of my depression squarely and address them one by one. Believe me, it works! now I am more than capable of managing my emotions now without being succumbed into depression.

Comment #17 Anita (63.176.159.33) -

I guess you just have to accept your self first, know your inner you, i mean you just have to be yourself and try to reach out with people. There are no harm when it comes to finding new friends. I would say that life would be a mess without some friends around you, right?

Comment #18 Eve (63.176.159.21) -

When one has a hard time connecting with others, it can easily mean that this person if just mentally blocking themselves.

Comment #19 Vivienne (63.176.159.232) -

It is just a matter of exposing yourself to more people. Go out and socialize with friends or friend of a friend. There is no shortcuts and you will be probably hearing the same from an expert (not to mention you'll be hearing a free advice which you already read here). Try to pretend at first that everything is all well, you may feel that you are tricking yourself but that it a part of how you address the issue. Exposure to people and mingling with all sorts of them.

Comment #20 Johnny (63.176.159.47) -

So you are getting a hard time getting close to people, isn't it a little odd, are you referring to getting close in the physical aspect? Or are you saying that you are having a hard time getting friends with others? Guess what, you are not alone. There are lots of people who are in your position. You know what you having right now? Trust issues. Just be yourself and trust the people around you.

Comment #21 Sandy (77.42.0.186) -

I think it is a little sad to not having a friend. Getting close to someone is not that hard especially if you share the same interests. And I can say that knowing yourself and having some confidence can make you destroy that barriers of yours towards meeting people. Try to socialize, it is not that hard to do. Earning friends is fun and exciting. Go out and have some fun.

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