'Abusive Parent'

Jules from Nebraska (Contact Member) -

I had a friend in high school whose father mentally and physically abused her. It was so sad. I tried telling her that she needed to tell someone about it but she lived with her father and did not want to be taken away from him. Her mother died when she was younger and she had no other family to go to. She endured the name calling and the slaps across the face all through high school and finally when she turned 18, she left her home and moved out. She rarely sees her father now. She has not forgiven him for what he had done to her in the past. I can't say that I blame her. She is very untrusting when it comes to men and does not like to get close to anyone. She has tried counseling but even that hasn't helped her either.

Comment #1 Poochie from the pound (Contact Member) -

I had a friend from the time I was 4. She and her sister were beat by her mother. This was not their real mother. The two girls were beat by their adoptive mother. Now she doesn't speak to her adoptive mother. She was very controlling and abusive. Back then, no one turned it in. Today, CPS would be called in the blink of an eye.

Comment #2 Milly from The Midwest (Contact Member) -

I just can't understand how someone could physically harm a child. They are so innocent. Yes my DD has gotten my pretty upset at times, but never could I hit her.

Comment #3 mark from marky mark land, canada (Contact Member) -

Yeah, it's really sad how parents would abuse their own children :( My mom is manic depressive [bipolar] and at one point she was SO out of control for a couple years. During that time she would flip out at times and hit my sister and I. Or scream at us and say things about killing us along with herself.

These days now though she has gotten a lot better, thanks to Lithium. I forgave her as i understand it was the illness, and not the REAL mother i know and love. But i definitely would never let that happen again, and would be sketchy about leaving my kids with her.

Comment #4 crystal from asia (Contact Member) -

Hi Jules, our experiences from childhood sticks in our mind and time cannot easily erase the scar it left on us. The healing of your friend's emotional scar is a gradual change. She needs guidance and must be exposed to some goodness from others to make her feel that there are still good people around her. Encourage her to read some self-help books or e-books to help her clear her thoughts away from negativity. That's what I did. When I was emotionally disturbed, I look for things that could help me out when there's no people around. I found this helpful website, www.ineerzine.com when I'm surfing the net. They have some informational articles that is related to my issues. I'm so glad I found this kind of stuff in the net.

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