'The 3 A's'

Milly from The Midwest -

Abuse, adultry and addiction. If you are having trouble in your marriage and once of these comes up, yes, get divorced. Especially if you have children.

The reason I post these is, there are alot of couples out there that don't know if they should stay in the marriage or not. "Once I married, it was for better or for worse". Not true. A marriage cannot work out if one person is being abused, or if one person commits adultry (broken vow) or if one person has an addiction (not mentally stabel to work at a marriage).

So if you have one of the 3 A's in your marriage, consider it a vow broken and talk to an attorney. Especially if you have kids.

Comment #1 Bill from Missoula -

Yes I agree. If you stay married "for the kids, " you will forever torment them with the side effects of your bad relationship.

Comment #2 Poochie from the pound -

There are so many couples that think staying together for just the kids is worth it. Many kids would rather have their parents divorced if it meant less abuse and a more stable life. I grew up around many kids that had divorced parents and it is sad, but the abuse stops so that is the better option.

Comment #3 Jules from Nebraska -

I agree. A friend of mine had parents' who chose to stay together just because of their kids. She grew up thinking that she lived in a "happy" home. She was crushed to find out later when she was in college that her parents were unhappy in their marriage but stayed to together because of the kids. Her parents are now divorced and my friend still has a hard time with it.

Comment #4 snowbird from The Frozen Tundra -

My mother was an alcoholic. I went through alot of turmoil when I was growing up. I dont' have as many problems as my siblings, but I only wish my dad would have divorced her sooner. But I think the only reason he stayed was to protect us, cause the courts would have given us to our mother.

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